What is Being Asked

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What is Being Asked: How can we improve our understanding and communication?

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Misunderstandings of what is being asked often lead to awkward interactions, but misunderstandings in interviews bring with them a whole new level of hilarity. 

While in her senior year of college, my cousin Anna applied to a slew of communication jobs in the area. A small yet charming marketing company invited her for an interview, and she excitedly accepted. On the day of the interview, she walked up to the receptionist at the front desk and announced her reason for being there. The woman nodded and led her to a back conference room, where two middle-aged women in business suits were already sitting at a table. 

Anna introduced herself and sat down in front of them, ready to pull out her best interview answers. The small talk quickly dissipated as she waited patiently for one of them to ask her a question. After neither one did, Anna began to talk a little bit more about her work experience, pausing constantly to give them time to interject. The women offered several affirmations here or there, but ultimately remained silent – until she mentioned her college volunteer work.

The older woman, looking surprised, asked, “Wait, you’re still in college?”

Anna’s confusion shifted toward slight irritation. Had they not looked at who they were interviewing? “Yes, I’m a senior at Messiah.”

“I thought you were interviewing us!”

It quickly became apparent that all three women were there to interview for the position. While Anna had been waiting for (who she thought was) her potential future bosses to ask her a question, they had been waiting for her to do the same thing.

In other words, neither person knew what was being asked.

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The Frequency of Miscommunication in What is Being Asked

While this absurd story is not a common occurrence (seriously, think about how terribly awkward it had to be), it is common for people to miscommunicate. In fact, it happens almost every day, whether we are at work, at school, or at home. You can probably think of five examples from yesterday in which you tried to ask for something and didn’t get exactly what you wanted. 

And each time it happens, you probably feel one of several negative emotions: anger, frustration, sadness, or hurt. Let’s be honest, in our personal relationships, it usually always comes back to feeling hurt. 

We are sucking energy from each other without meaning to  – so why does it happen so often?

The Problems in Communication

Humans don’t communicate well. Despite our evolution to opposable thumbs and sophisticated use of language, we’ve still got a lot of work on in the ol’ message-transmit-delivery realm. 

Maybe it’s because nonverbal communication accounts for such a high percentage, and we’re bad at reading body language. Or perhaps it’s because we never had an English teacher instruct us how to properly formulate and organize our thoughts into words (listen, it’s easier said than done). 

Another main reason for why we don’t communicate well? Our emotions and preconceived notions get in the way. We are stuck in a paradox of hearing what we want while not being able to express what we need. We focus on what isn’t there while being too afraid to acknowledge it.

Better Communication Requires Better Understanding of What is Being Asked

This miscommunication paradox can be avoided, but it takes some work. Oftentimes, when there are questions between couples, friends, family members, coworkers, dog-walkers… almost everyone assumes they completely understand what is being asked, but the reality is that they don’t. Better communication requires better understanding. 

If we want to have true communication with meaningful results, we need to do two things:

1. Get better at understanding what is being asked

2. Get better at asking for what we want

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1. Get better at understanding what is being asked

Your coworker Bobby comes into your office, sits down, and asks about his monthly report for the tenth time that month. You give a short answer, dismiss his fears about low numbers, and roll your eyes behind his back. Haven’t you gone over this before? In your frustration, you know Bobby will be back the next week with the same questions.

Your girlfriend Susie asks you if you want to go out to eat, since you’ve stayed in all week. There are no short of three leftover dishes in the fridge, including pepperoni pizza, chilli, and your mom’s famous lasagna. You tell her the logical choice would be to save money, eat some leftovers, and oh-hey how about we go out next week instead.

Their questions may or may not frustrate you, because the answers seem so apparent to you. If this is the case, two things are probably happening. One, they truly don’t see the obvious answers. Or two, they see the obvious answers, but that’s not what they’re looking for.

Chances are, it’s option two. And chances are, your “obvious” answer wasn’t what they were looking for.

Did Bobby really want to talk numbers again, or was he looking for affirmation because of his fears of underperformance? Did Susie really forget about the leftovers, or was she hoping to spend some quality time with her partner?

People hold back from asking what they really want because they are afraid of being vulnerable.

In addition to our opposable thumbs, we humans also have evolved to possess a huge fear of shame. We are afraid of looking weak, being hurt, and making mistakes. Bobby can’t bring himself to admit that he’s afraid he’ll lose his job, so he masks it in a bravado about the monthly numbers. Susie struggles with admitting she is feeling low and wants love, so she offers the safe question of eating out.

.

If we want to communicate better, we need to get better at understanding what we are being asked.

You might be thinking, Sounds like a “them” problem more than a “me” problem. It is and it isn’t. By which I mean, if you care about your relationships and your time, then it isn’t – for a number of reasons. By understanding what people are looking for, we can more quickly give them what they want.  This can save you time, emotional energy, and further problems. It can also take you one step closer to authentic connection.

When someone is asking you for something, think about the context. Who is the asker? What are their words, and what might be behind their words? What might they be holding back for fear of sounding too vulnerable?

You might not always know. You might need to ask a follow-up or clarification question. You might guess wrongly. But working toward a greater understanding is the first step.

What is the second step in improving your emotional and social well-being?

.

2. Get better at asking for what you want

Remember that whole “people in your life might be bad at asking for what they really want/need” bit? Yeah, most likely, that also applies to you.

Sure, you might be able to clearly express words in a way that gets specific answers. But do you ever find yourself slightly dissatisfied with the results? Or asking the same variation of question multiple times?

We give ourselves too much credit for being aware of what we really want.

In fact, around 85% of people think they are self-aware when in fact, only about 15% really are. How’s that for a mind-trick: if you are aware enough to realize you are in the 85%, you are closer to being in the 15%.

You want the house cleaned, so you ask your partner to do the laundry, clean the dishes, and vacuum the carpet. They may do these tasks, they may not, but you still feel a knot of frustration in your chest (in fact, you might already be thinking about what other tasks you can ask them to do). Could it be that these surface-level questions are simply masking your actual desire: that you want a more equal partnership with chores, or you want them to show you a greater level of commitment? In other words, that it is a much deeper issue than the dirty carpet?

Or maybe you ask your friends if they want to go shopping with you for some new clothes. Despite your best efforts to convince them that it would be a great opportunity to update your fall wardrobe, you find yourself disappointed and upset when they can’t come. Perhaps you don’t really need new clothes, but instead are feeling lonely and want some company?

Oftentimes, we don’t ask for what we actually want because we are afraid of the answer or the reaction. We withhold our intended questions and mask them under a myriad of smaller, sillier, and less direct questions or belittling language.

Just as we need to work to understand others, we need to work to understand ourselves.

If the ball of unidentified emotions don’t go away when you ask a question, or you’ve got an answer but aren’t satisfied with it, take a moment to step back and ask yourself:

• Why do I care so much about this?
• What am I really looking for?
• What do I actually want or need to feel _________? (Fill in the blank: loved, appreciated, valued, happy, supported, validated)

The sooner you understand what you want, the sooner you can actually ask the right questions. 

Doing so will often require courage. You will have to allow yourself to be vulnerable and face some fears. However, if you keep yourself grounded with the right intentions, it will save you dozens of miscommunication down the road..

A Greater Understanding of What is Being Asked

During those painfully uncomfortable ten minutes of Anna’s interview, nothing was actually communicated. Words were being said, but none of the parties understood the context, asker, or questions. 

On a smaller scale, miscommunication like this happens every day. The sooner you can understand what is being asked of you, and the sooner you can ask for what you really want, the sooner everyone can get the answers that they’re looking for.

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What is Being Asked: How can we improve our understanding and communication?

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Misunderstandings of what is being asked often lead to awkward interactions, but misunderstandings in interviews bring with them a whole new level of hilarity. 

While in her senior year of college, my cousin Anna applied to a slew of communication jobs in the area. A small yet charming marketing company invited her for an interview, and she excitedly accepted. On the day of the interview, she walked up to the receptionist at the front desk and announced her reason for being there. The woman nodded and led her to a back conference room, where two middle-aged women in business suits were already sitting at a table. 

Anna introduced herself and sat down in front of them, ready to pull out her best interview answers. The small talk quickly dissipated as she waited patiently for one of them to ask her a question. After neither one did, Anna began to talk a little bit more about her work experience, pausing constantly to give them time to interject. The women offered several affirmations here or there, but ultimately remained silent – until she mentioned her college volunteer work.

The older woman, looking surprised, asked, “Wait, you’re still in college?”

Anna’s confusion shifted toward slight irritation. Had they not looked at who they were interviewing? “Yes, I’m a senior at Messiah.”

“I thought you were interviewing us!”

It quickly became apparent that all three women were there to interview for the position. While Anna had been waiting for (who she thought was) her potential future bosses to ask her a question, they had been waiting for her to do the same thing.

In other words, neither person knew what was being asked.

.

The Frequency of Miscommunication in What is Being Asked

While this absurd story is not a common occurrence (seriously, think about how terribly awkward it had to be), it is common for people to miscommunicate. In fact, it happens almost every day, whether we are at work, at school, or at home. You can probably think of five examples from yesterday in which you tried to ask for something and didn’t get exactly what you wanted. 

And each time it happens, you probably feel one of several negative emotions: anger, frustration, sadness, or hurt. Let’s be honest, in our personal relationships, it usually always comes back to feeling hurt. 

We are sucking energy from each other without meaning to  – so why does it happen so often?

The Problems in Communication

Humans don’t communicate well. Despite our evolution to opposable thumbs and sophisticated use of language, we’ve still got a lot of work on in the ol’ message-transmit-delivery realm. 

Maybe it’s because nonverbal communication accounts for such a high percentage, and we’re bad at reading body language. Or perhaps it’s because we never had an English teacher instruct us how to properly formulate and organize our thoughts into words (listen, it’s easier said than done). 

Another main reason for why we don’t communicate well? Our emotions and preconceived notions get in the way. We are stuck in a paradox of hearing what we want while not being able to express what we need. We focus on what isn’t there while being too afraid to acknowledge it.

Better Communication Requires Better Understanding of What is Being Asked

This miscommunication paradox can be avoided, but it takes some work. Oftentimes, when there are questions between couples, friends, family members, coworkers, dog-walkers… almost everyone assumes they completely understand what is being asked, but the reality is that they don’t. Better communication requires better understanding. 

If we want to have true communication with meaningful results, we need to do two things:

1. Get better at understanding what is being asked

2. Get better at asking for what we want

.

1. Get better at understanding what is being asked

Your coworker Bobby comes into your office, sits down, and asks about his monthly report for the tenth time that month. You give a short answer, dismiss his fears about low numbers, and roll your eyes behind his back. Haven’t you gone over this before? In your frustration, you know Bobby will be back the next week with the same questions.

Your girlfriend Susie asks you if you want to go out to eat, since you’ve stayed in all week. There are no short of three leftover dishes in the fridge, including pepperoni pizza, chilli, and your mom’s famous lasagna. You tell her the logical choice would be to save money, eat some leftovers, and oh-hey how about we go out next week instead.

Their questions may or may not frustrate you, because the answers seem so apparent to you. If this is the case, two things are probably happening. One, they truly don’t see the obvious answers. Or two, they see the obvious answers, but that’s not what they’re looking for.

Chances are, it’s option two. And chances are, your “obvious” answer wasn’t what they were looking for.

Did Bobby really want to talk numbers again, or was he looking for affirmation because of his fears of underperformance? Did Susie really forget about the leftovers, or was she hoping to spend some quality time with her partner?

People hold back from asking what they really want because they are afraid of being vulnerable.

In addition to our opposable thumbs, we humans also have evolved to possess a huge fear of shame. We are afraid of looking weak, being hurt, and making mistakes. Bobby can’t bring himself to admit that he’s afraid he’ll lose his job, so he masks it in a bravado about the monthly numbers. Susie struggles with admitting she is feeling low and wants love, so she offers the safe question of eating out.

.

If we want to communicate better, we need to get better at understanding what we are being asked.

You might be thinking, Sounds like a “them” problem more than a “me” problem. It is and it isn’t. By which I mean, if you care about your relationships and your time, then it isn’t – for a number of reasons. By understanding what people are looking for, we can more quickly give them what they want.  This can save you time, emotional energy, and further problems. It can also take you one step closer to authentic connection.

When someone is asking you for something, think about the context. Who is the asker? What are their words, and what might be behind their words? What might they be holding back for fear of sounding too vulnerable?

You might not always know. You might need to ask a follow-up or clarification question. You might guess wrongly. But working toward a greater understanding is the first step.

What is the second step in improving your emotional and social well-being?

.

2. Get better at asking for what you want

Remember that whole “people in your life might be bad at asking for what they really want/need” bit? Yeah, most likely, that also applies to you.

Sure, you might be able to clearly express words in a way that gets specific answers. But do you ever find yourself slightly dissatisfied with the results? Or asking the same variation of question multiple times?

We give ourselves too much credit for being aware of what we really want.

In fact, around 85% of people think they are self-aware when in fact, only about 15% really are. How’s that for a mind-trick: if you are aware enough to realize you are in the 85%, you are closer to being in the 15%.

You want the house cleaned, so you ask your partner to do the laundry, clean the dishes, and vacuum the carpet. They may do these tasks, they may not, but you still feel a knot of frustration in your chest (in fact, you might already be thinking about what other tasks you can ask them to do). Could it be that these surface-level questions are simply masking your actual desire: that you want a more equal partnership with chores, or you want them to show you a greater level of commitment? In other words, that it is a much deeper issue than the dirty carpet?

Or maybe you ask your friends if they want to go shopping with you for some new clothes. Despite your best efforts to convince them that it would be a great opportunity to update your fall wardrobe, you find yourself disappointed and upset when they can’t come. Perhaps you don’t really need new clothes, but instead are feeling lonely and want some company?

Oftentimes, we don’t ask for what we actually want because we are afraid of the answer or the reaction. We withhold our intended questions and mask them under a myriad of smaller, sillier, and less direct questions or belittling language.

Just as we need to work to understand others, we need to work to understand ourselves.

If the ball of unidentified emotions don’t go away when you ask a question, or you’ve got an answer but aren’t satisfied with it, take a moment to step back and ask yourself:

• Why do I care so much about this?
• What am I really looking for?
• What do I actually want or need to feel _________? (Fill in the blank: loved, appreciated, valued, happy, supported, validated)

The sooner you understand what you want, the sooner you can actually ask the right questions. 

Doing so will often require courage. You will have to allow yourself to be vulnerable and face some fears. However, if you keep yourself grounded with the right intentions, it will save you dozens of miscommunication down the road..

A Greater Understanding of What is Being Asked

During those painfully uncomfortable ten minutes of Anna’s interview, nothing was actually communicated. Words were being said, but none of the parties understood the context, asker, or questions. 

On a smaller scale, miscommunication like this happens every day. The sooner you can understand what is being asked of you, and the sooner you can ask for what you really want, the sooner everyone can get the answers that they’re looking for.

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What is Being Asked: How can we improve our understanding and communication?

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Misunderstandings of what is being asked often lead to awkward interactions, but misunderstandings in interviews bring with them a whole new level of hilarity. 

While in her senior year of college, my cousin Anna applied to a slew of communication jobs in the area. A small yet charming marketing company invited her for an interview, and she excitedly accepted. On the day of the interview, she walked up to the receptionist at the front desk and announced her reason for being there. The woman nodded and led her to a back conference room, where two middle-aged women in business suits were already sitting at a table. 

Anna introduced herself and sat down in front of them, ready to pull out her best interview answers. The small talk quickly dissipated as she waited patiently for one of them to ask her a question. After neither one did, Anna began to talk a little bit more about her work experience, pausing constantly to give them time to interject. The women offered several affirmations here or there, but ultimately remained silent – until she mentioned her college volunteer work.

The older woman, looking surprised, asked, “Wait, you’re still in college?”

Anna’s confusion shifted toward slight irritation. Had they not looked at who they were interviewing? “Yes, I’m a senior at Messiah.”

“I thought you were interviewing us!”

It quickly became apparent that all three women were there to interview for the position. While Anna had been waiting for (who she thought was) her potential future bosses to ask her a question, they had been waiting for her to do the same thing.

In other words, neither person knew what was being asked.

.

The Frequency of Miscommunication in What is Being Asked

While this absurd story is not a common occurrence (seriously, think about how terribly awkward it had to be), it is common for people to miscommunicate. In fact, it happens almost every day, whether we are at work, at school, or at home. You can probably think of five examples from yesterday in which you tried to ask for something and didn’t get exactly what you wanted. 

And each time it happens, you probably feel one of several negative emotions: anger, frustration, sadness, or hurt. Let’s be honest, in our personal relationships, it usually always comes back to feeling hurt. 

We are sucking energy from each other without meaning to  – so why does it happen so often?

The Problems in Communication

Humans don’t communicate well. Despite our evolution to opposable thumbs and sophisticated use of language, we’ve still got a lot of work on in the ol’ message-transmit-delivery realm. 

Maybe it’s because nonverbal communication accounts for such a high percentage, and we’re bad at reading body language. Or perhaps it’s because we never had an English teacher instruct us how to properly formulate and organize our thoughts into words (listen, it’s easier said than done). 

Another main reason for why we don’t communicate well? Our emotions and preconceived notions get in the way. We are stuck in a paradox of hearing what we want while not being able to express what we need. We focus on what isn’t there while being too afraid to acknowledge it.

Better Communication Requires Better Understanding of What is Being Asked

This miscommunication paradox can be avoided, but it takes some work. Oftentimes, when there are questions between couples, friends, family members, coworkers, dog-walkers… almost everyone assumes they completely understand what is being asked, but the reality is that they don’t. Better communication requires better understanding. 

If we want to have true communication with meaningful results, we need to do two things:

1. Get better at understanding what is being asked

2. Get better at asking for what we want

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1. Get better at understanding what is being asked

Your coworker Bobby comes into your office, sits down, and asks about his monthly report for the tenth time that month. You give a short answer, dismiss his fears about low numbers, and roll your eyes behind his back. Haven’t you gone over this before? In your frustration, you know Bobby will be back the next week with the same questions.

Your girlfriend Susie asks you if you want to go out to eat, since you’ve stayed in all week. There are no short of three leftover dishes in the fridge, including pepperoni pizza, chilli, and your mom’s famous lasagna. You tell her the logical choice would be to save money, eat some leftovers, and oh-hey how about we go out next week instead.

Their questions may or may not frustrate you, because the answers seem so apparent to you. If this is the case, two things are probably happening. One, they truly don’t see the obvious answers. Or two, they see the obvious answers, but that’s not what they’re looking for.

Chances are, it’s option two. And chances are, your “obvious” answer wasn’t what they were looking for.

Did Bobby really want to talk numbers again, or was he looking for affirmation because of his fears of underperformance? Did Susie really forget about the leftovers, or was she hoping to spend some quality time with her partner?

People hold back from asking what they really want because they are afraid of being vulnerable.

In addition to our opposable thumbs, we humans also have evolved to possess a huge fear of shame. We are afraid of looking weak, being hurt, and making mistakes. Bobby can’t bring himself to admit that he’s afraid he’ll lose his job, so he masks it in a bravado about the monthly numbers. Susie struggles with admitting she is feeling low and wants love, so she offers the safe question of eating out.

.

If we want to communicate better, we need to get better at understanding what we are being asked.

You might be thinking, Sounds like a “them” problem more than a “me” problem. It is and it isn’t. By which I mean, if you care about your relationships and your time, then it isn’t – for a number of reasons. By understanding what people are looking for, we can more quickly give them what they want.  This can save you time, emotional energy, and further problems. It can also take you one step closer to authentic connection.

When someone is asking you for something, think about the context. Who is the asker? What are their words, and what might be behind their words? What might they be holding back for fear of sounding too vulnerable?

You might not always know. You might need to ask a follow-up or clarification question. You might guess wrongly. But working toward a greater understanding is the first step.

What is the second step in improving your emotional and social well-being?

.

2. Get better at asking for what you want

Remember that whole “people in your life might be bad at asking for what they really want/need” bit? Yeah, most likely, that also applies to you.

Sure, you might be able to clearly express words in a way that gets specific answers. But do you ever find yourself slightly dissatisfied with the results? Or asking the same variation of question multiple times?

We give ourselves too much credit for being aware of what we really want.

In fact, around 85% of people think they are self-aware when in fact, only about 15% really are. How’s that for a mind-trick: if you are aware enough to realize you are in the 85%, you are closer to being in the 15%.

You want the house cleaned, so you ask your partner to do the laundry, clean the dishes, and vacuum the carpet. They may do these tasks, they may not, but you still feel a knot of frustration in your chest (in fact, you might already be thinking about what other tasks you can ask them to do). Could it be that these surface-level questions are simply masking your actual desire: that you want a more equal partnership with chores, or you want them to show you a greater level of commitment? In other words, that it is a much deeper issue than the dirty carpet?

Or maybe you ask your friends if they want to go shopping with you for some new clothes. Despite your best efforts to convince them that it would be a great opportunity to update your fall wardrobe, you find yourself disappointed and upset when they can’t come. Perhaps you don’t really need new clothes, but instead are feeling lonely and want some company?

Oftentimes, we don’t ask for what we actually want because we are afraid of the answer or the reaction. We withhold our intended questions and mask them under a myriad of smaller, sillier, and less direct questions or belittling language.

Just as we need to work to understand others, we need to work to understand ourselves.

If the ball of unidentified emotions don’t go away when you ask a question, or you’ve got an answer but aren’t satisfied with it, take a moment to step back and ask yourself:

• Why do I care so much about this?
• What am I really looking for?
• What do I actually want or need to feel _________? (Fill in the blank: loved, appreciated, valued, happy, supported, validated)

The sooner you understand what you want, the sooner you can actually ask the right questions. 

Doing so will often require courage. You will have to allow yourself to be vulnerable and face some fears. However, if you keep yourself grounded with the right intentions, it will save you dozens of miscommunication down the road..

A Greater Understanding of What is Being Asked

During those painfully uncomfortable ten minutes of Anna’s interview, nothing was actually communicated. Words were being said, but none of the parties understood the context, asker, or questions. 

On a smaller scale, miscommunication like this happens every day. The sooner you can understand what is being asked of you, and the sooner you can ask for what you really want, the sooner everyone can get the answers that they’re looking for.

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FOLLOW-UP QUESTIONS

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EXPLORING YOURSELF

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How self-aware do you think you are?

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Have you ever had a miscommunication negatively affect a relationship?

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EXPANDING YOUR WORLD

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What are the most common barriers to effective communication?

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How can you get better at reading body language?

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What can one do to become more self-aware?

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FOLLOW-UP QUESTIONS

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EXPLORING YOURSELF

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How self-aware do you think you are?

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Have you ever had a miscommunication negatively affect a relationship?

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EXPANDING YOUR WORLD

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What are the most common barriers to effective communication?

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How can you get better at reading body language?

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What can one do to become more self-aware?

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FOLLOW-UP QUESTIONS

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EXPLORING YOURSELF

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How often do you find yourself in situations in which there is a disconnect between what is being asked and what is intended?

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How self-aware do you think you are?

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Have you ever had a miscommunication negatively affect a relationship?

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EXPANDING YOUR WORLD

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What are the most common barriers to effective communication?

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How can you get better at reading body language?

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What can one do to become more self-aware?

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